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Okay, so you're gay or lesbian and maybe you're not really sure how to go out and meet someone. No problem. Most of us have been there at one time or another. There are however lots of places and ways to meet someone. You can go to bars, parties, baths, clubs, community centers and of course, you can check out online dating sites.
If you're planning to try the online dating site routine (and I really think you should - it's a Mecca for gays and lesbians who are a little reticent about partying all night), it all starts with a great photo. Don't put up the photo your Grandma took of you just after she pinched your check and told you she has a wonderful boy (or girl) for you to meet. Take the time to do it right. Get a professional quality photo that shows people why you're one of the hottest guys or girls on the planet and they should feel lucky to have you.
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Be prepared as well to offer some basic stats about yourself. It doesn't matter whether you're skinny or fat, wimpy or muscled or well endowed or lacking. There's someone for everyone and you'll find that if you package yourself correctly you can get the person you want. All you need to do is make it sound like whatever you have is an advantage. Skinny? Talk about having that boy or girl next door look. Fat? Say how you've got this amazing full body that you just want someone to hold in his or her hands.
Talk also about what you like to do in bed. If you're into butt fucking, tell people about it. Say whether you're a top or bottom (active or passive for the noobs out there). Do you like rimming? Talk about it. The bottom line is, don't be shy about what you want.
That puts you at a distinct advantage. If you're a guy looking for a hot married babe to have on the side, you don't need to worry about bringing her flowers every time or paying for a ticket when her kid does the school play. She doesn't want anything anyway, except for your affection and time.
Ditto for things you don't like. Maybe you're totally not into leather. That's okay. Mention that leather is not your thing and you'll have lots of people saying "oh thank God, I'm not the only one."
Of course, just because we're gay or lesbian doesn't mean we're only about sex. Mention what else you're interested in. If you're really into seeing the opera, mention that. If you just have a hankering for watching the New York Yankees, talk about that also But don't write your whole life story. Just tell a few things about what you like and what you're looking for in a man or woman and leave the rest for your date. Oh, and welcome to gay and lesbian dating in the 21st century!